Did I say weeding? Oops I meant to say wedding | I thought it would be a wonderful gesture on my part to name these two lovely people as ‘Melanie’s revered persons of the week,’ under my newly launched ha ha ha category
By Melanie Nathan, August 25, 2014.
The oddest thing happened.
Here is the gist of it and cutting a long story short. A Facebook supporter of my work signs me up as an Admin of a Facebook page. I do not really know what that means or entails, except I believe my own FB popularity may attract people to “join” that page and so that is a good thing I can do for those who create these pages where we are able to showcase our articles.
In all the time I am admin I really do not get involved or even do anything admin related at all, except once approve a request to join.
Boom out of the blue I get an message saying that the I am guilty of “bullying” by association with the leader of that FB Page and that FBI is involved and police and all I see is major drama between a bunch of men who have nothing better to do.
I decide to go to the page and “un-join” the group because I do not want the drama – I dont care who in the little fight is right or wrong- its just all crazy drama to me . So bye bye and I un-friend some and block others involved in the dramatics that somehow my name got roped into. Sheeeeez!
Next thing I get a midnight phone call from the person who made me this admin – crying – ‘why did you leave?’ – I explained nothing personal but that I dont want the drama.
What follows is an accusation by of one of his friends, a Larry Griffin-Kentzel, via my private FB message that I am part of a PLOT to overthrow the man who started the page and who decided to make me an admin. (seriously!)
I told Mr. Larry Griffin-Kentzel after trying to figure out what he wanted from me – being a complete stranger to me- to leave me alone and that I was not interested in the drama. When he kept at me with accusations of some PLOT I blocked him,
The frustration must have been so damn awful for poor Larry or maybe he roped husband John into this because- either Larry VIA his husband’s FB page or John, his husband via his own page – arrives this very sweet little note in my message box from the FB address of husband John Kentzel-Griffin, also a complete stranger to me –
Here is the screen shot:
Very very nice people – allow me to introduce you to Larry and John: see their wedding video here http://wqad.com/2014/06/02/first-same-sex-couple-weds-in-rock-island-county/
Anyway I thought it would be a wonderful gesture for me to name these two lovely people as ‘Melanie’s revered persons of the week,’ under my newly launched ha ha ha category.
TAGS: Facebook, Trolls, Misogynists, Larry Griffin-Kentzel and John Kentzel-Griffin
John’s Facebook Page from whence the lovely message launched its pretty self:
Oh and in case you are interested here is the accomplished Mr. JKL’s online published CV
UPDATE: Calling someone a derogatory name, cussing, vulgarity is a verbal assault. I felt assaulted when those words were delivered to me. It felt as if someone had punched me in the face. It was shocking to me and it hurt. Yet the attacker seems to think that his profanity is harmless, further indicative of the kind of mindset that is being exposed here. And the exposing is all being done by him – as he further slides through the anger and bullying he expresses in the comments here under. Because he does not seem to get it – I am hoping he will be educated by this examination of the harm and impact such verbal assault can cause:-
Using certain swear words is a promotion of socially unacceptable negatives like verbal abuse, sexual harassment, discrimination and verbal assault.
If someone has a momentary feeling of anger and expresses that hostile feeling out loud, by cussing at someone, even when they move on and forget about it, the damage done to the other person could continue to hurt for years. This is much more unfortunate when the utterance was spoken intentionally, and not in a momentary loss of control. … http://nobullying.com/curse/
For someone who aspires to lead a drama free life, you certainly do create more than your share and seem to enjoy wallowing in it. My uncles are too of the sweetest most compassionate individuals one could possibly know. You are berating two gentlemen who have done more for the gay community than you could possibly achieve. You are a mean spirited bigot who loves drama as long as it’s on your terms. You’ll go through all sorts of lying and electronic trickery (Photoshop) to ‘prove’ untruths that you purport to be facts when in actuality, they are false. Your meager attempt to defame my uncle and his partner of 36 years is deplorable. You are a danger to the Gay Community.
Well Buddy Love who is afraid to reveal his real name – thank you for reading this one year after I posted it. Bottom line this very nice man you speak of – for no good reason at all called me a “Rancid cunt.” See the screen shot in the article. Proof 1000% that men who call women “Rancid cunts” are very nice people. I would never have dreamed of putting this post up BUT for that fact! I want people to see that your very nice gentleman uncle has a potty mouth and mistreats women who he does not even know. Just no escaping that the FACT of what he said is now on google search. He is welcome to send me an unconditional apology – in which event I would be happy to consider taking down the article.
I do not have to prove what I have done for the gay community. And your allegations that I employed trickery is your feeble attempt at denial of the facts. Its very easy to prove that the screenshot is 100% authentic.
Tell Uncle to apologize!
Entirely too much negative drama from the ageist, sexist, elderly male gay-bashing, Melanie Nathan.
Ageist – OKAY for you to call an almost 60 year old ageist? !!!
Sexist – okay for you to call a woman who defends herself when 2 female-bashers call her a “Rancid Cunt” – NICE GUY YOU ARE EH!!!
Male gay- bashing? – hardly what the gay male asylum seekers and refugees who I have supported through my fund and advocacy would say about me – especially those reaching out to their own who offer no help!!!
DREAM ON GAY SETH!!!
Of course people that you may have helped don’t see you that way. You’re not persecuting them. You don’t care about anyone but yourself. Where are your friends backing you up? The only replies to this blog entry are from the couple’s friends and family members. You’re destroying their loved ones. Let it go, Melanie Nathan.
I was not the one calling a fellow human a “Rancid Cunt.” I am the victim here! Of this man’s filth ! And you say I am persecuting him by putting up the screen shot of what he said to me and calling him out. I dont need to call my friends to come on here and defend me – they know who I am . And I think if I am exposing the fact that this man called me a rancid cunt – then He persecuted himself . Did he think he would get away with it. I have not received an apology from him. And you expect me to take down this warning to other people that this man is capable of such awful insults? Its is my absolute to expose his filthy remark calling me that disgusting term and you say I am persecuting him? You? You dont even have the courage to give your real name. For all I know this could be John or Larry himself. I am destroying whose loved ones – how? LOL seriously? He called me a rancid cunt. And thats okay – no apology. I am sorry his “loved ones” sees him for what he is. Maybe he should show his loves ones an apology. Then I would consider taking this article down. Right now everyone is welcome to see how “Sweet and nice” he really is.
OK so we know this is you larry and or John/. I just tracked the IP address to you! Cut it out., If you want to talk to me have the courage to say who you are!
AND THE BALLS to apologize!
OH AND LEST WE FORGET that Gay Seth and Buddy Love submitted comments from the same IP address and I know exactly who you are – want to be further embarrassed Mr. …..!
It’s all about you, isn’t it Melanie? Why should anyone apologize to you on a ‘maybe’ . . . I can hear you now saying, I said I would consider talking it down, not that I would. [Whine] The bad man called me a bad word in a private message. I’ll have to write a blog entry causing one man to lose his career and both men to lose their home because I’m a powerful attorney with a heart as black as coal. [/Whine] I’m sure you quite proud of the results of your vendetta, you vile contemptuous woman.
Wow I had no idea I was THAT powerful . And you are right no one should apologize to anyone based on any promise, lack thereof or any negotiation whatsoever. They should apologize because they are sorry. As tough as I may seem to you Larry or John aka Gay Seth aka …. those words you seem to think were okay to use disgusted me and hurt me -like an assault – and I am the victim of your filth. With that said you owe me an unconditional apology. If exposing your vulgarity hurt you in any way – well you did it to yourself. Stop playing victim. Grow up and look into your own heart – instead of exacerbating the problem by continuing with your filthy and unjustified rant against me. I have no vendetta – I only want to expose who people really ARE – and you showed that by your use of misogynistic filth. I think people deserve to know what you are capable of. So please NO APOOLOGIES for using filth unless you mean it.
I’ll be filing a complaint with The State Bar of California if this is not taken down pronto.
Ah so now you admit who you are. And now you threaten me? . The State Bar of California? LOL ! And what might I ask will your complaint be?
You are guilty of behavior unbecoming for an officer of the court, Melanie ‘Misandrist’ Nathan. Defaming the character of two gentlemen that you admittedly don’t know, because of some random ‘private message’ sent to you through Facebook. The operative word here is ‘private’ as it is against Facebook’s Terms of Service to divulge publicly the content of any ‘private message.’
Pulling Mr. Kentzel Griffin’s Circum Vitae into this mess created by you was an act of pure cold hearted hatred. That resume had nothing to do with any of this and you know it. But, it did have the affect of virtually destroying Mr. Kentzel Griffin’s career thus putting the couple in danger of loosing their home.
How proud you must feel having possibly destroyed two of your own, Melanie ‘Misandrist’ Nathan.
This could go anywhere from a Cease and Desist Order for Harassment to sanctions compensating the couple for their losses.
It’s up to you, counselor . . . Remove this blog entry and it all ends here.
Where is my apology? You assaulted me with your vile filthy language. I am NOT an officer of the Court. I am not a member of the California State Bar. I do not practice law. So what other lies do you want to tell? You were harassing me and threatening me and then you cursed me. If someone punched me in the face in a private room – I have every right to take that physical beating out of the private room onto the street so all can see. That was no private message – that was a verbal assault that you chose to lob at me, uninvited! I have every right to expose you and I owe you zero confidentiality – you verbally abused me. So should I report you to the police for lewd language or whatever statute is probably out there that protects people from such filth?
Where is the apology. You are NOT sorry for what you said right?
Calling someone a derogatory name, cussing, vulgarity is a verbal assault. I felt assaulted when those words were delivered to me. It felt as if someone had punched me in the face. It was shocking to me and it hurt. Yet the attacker seems to think that his profanity is harmless, further indicative of the kind of mindset that is being exposed here. And the exposing is all being done by him – as he further slides through the anger and bullying he expresses in the comments here . Because he does not seem to get it – I am hoping he will be educated by this examination of the harm and impact such verbal assault can cause to its victim:-
Using certain swear words is a promotion of socially unacceptable negatives like verbal abuse, sexual harassment, discrimination and verbal assault.
If someone has a momentary feeling of anger and expresses that hostile feeling out loud, by cussing at someone, even when they move on and forget about it, the damage done to the other person could continue to hurt for years. This is much more unfortunate when the utterance was spoken intentionally, and not in a momentary loss of control. ..and perhaps worse when in writing – because the stain does not go away… The purpose of this article is to educate Mr Johnny Boy into feeling he did “wrong” and hopefully into submitting to a genuine apology. Let see…