Placing our Gay Flag for Nelson Mandela

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Melanie Nathan and Huge Brockman Photo: Henry Bantjes

By Melanie Nathan, Dec 09, 2013.

When I was a child I was told by my Government that Nelson Mandela was bad man, a terrorist who wanted all white people dead. They did not allow us to see pictures of Mandela, and all images of him were banned. He was serving life in prison. When Mandela was finally released after serving 27 years, many believed South Africa would be a bloodbath, and most South Africans who at that time did not know Mandela the human, could not have imagined that he would ensure peace, unity and equality for all, through a process of negotiation and reconciliation.

Screen Shot 2013-12-07 at 1.15.27 PMAnd so he became our Tata Madiba, our unifying hero and when he died at the end of last week, we were devastated.

People by the thousands began to descend on Nelson Mandela Square, mere blocks from my hotel in Sandton as well as on the home he died at in Houghton.

Together with the designer of the Gay Flag of South Africa, Eugene Brockman and his partner Henry Bantjes, we decided to join the throngs of people and take some flags down to these memorial venues, where we could place them amongst the thousand of bouquets of flowers, plants, pictures, momentos, placards, cards and notes.

We wanted to thank Madiba for what he had done for LGBT people. We wanted to thank him for our freedom and equality and so we did. Nelson Mandela set the tone for LGBTI equality when he said: “Never, never and never again shall any one be oppressed in this beautiful land of South Africa;” and so South Africa boasts full equality to include sexual orientation and gender identity, in its all inclusive Constitution.

When the TV interviewers asked asked why we were there, Eugene Brockman noted: “We have come to thank Tata Madiba for equality and for giving us the dignity to be who we are.”

Here are the pictures – though no words nor images could convey or capture what we felt doing this – Hamba Kahle Tata Madiba.


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Melanie and Huge TV interview
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Huge Brockman, designer of the Gay Flag of South Africa, placing a SA Gay Flag outside the Houghton home of Nelson Mandela / Photo: Melanie Nathan

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9 thoughts on “Placing our Gay Flag for Nelson Mandela

  1. Reblogged this on It Is What It Is and commented:
    With honor and pride …. honor a champion of equality!!! PRIDE ….

  2. Beautiful and endearing words from your heart and from one who lives there and knows. Thank you for sharing your story.

    1. Pat I have lived in the USA for many years, but continued to work in many ways with South Africa because of my love for the country and the people. I happened to be in SA when Madiba died. It has been an incredible gift for me to be here now. Thank you for your support.

      1. That’s even better, Melanie, and a pretty incredible gift to be there and participate. I’m sure it’s an event that will stay with you for years to come — none like it.

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