Coming OUT as Pro-Abortion

By Jennifer Davis, Guest Contributor, September 2015

I feel like I am “coming out” all over again! Guess what everyone – I not only stand with  PLANNED PARENTHOOD, I HAVE USED PLANNED PARENTHOOD!!! OMG, I know… the stigma and shaming associated with this proven effective national healthcare organization is astounding to me. So many people stand with Planned Parenthood “on principle,” but so few are willing to talk about how they (and/or someone they know and love) have benefited from Planned Parenthood’s services. To add to that, I do not consider myself Pro-Choice, I am Pro-Abortion.

Screen Shot 2015-09-22 at 5.30.35 PMOver the years, I have benefited from Planned Parenthood & other reproductive health organizations in a number of ways, but let’s cut to the quick, the elephant in the room, the subject everyone wants to minimize, or not talk about at all, or worse, sensationalize it with lies. I WENT TO Planned Parenthood FOR THEIR ABORTION SERVICES (and other things, but we’ll talk about that in a minute). I am not embarrassed, nor ashamed, and I have no regrets, none. And I am grateful beyond words that Planned Parenthood was there for me, and I am willing to fight to insure abortion services are there again if wanted or needed for me, as well as others. And these assaults on reproductive health care accessibility are not limited to Planned Parenthood, but encompass any organizations or clinics that provide safe, legal abortion services.

Now, let’s get past the sometimes well-meaning but still-offensive questions… It doesn’t matter how old I was or whether or not carrying a pregnancy to term would have “ruined” my life. It is irrelevant whether or not I was raped or molested, whether or not I had 1, 3, 10 or 100 abortions or how “far along” I was. It is irrelevant whether or not there were “other” health concerns. It is irrelevant what my education level is or was at the time. It is irrelevant whether or not I was using drugs. It is irrelevant whether or not I did or did not tell my sexual partner (or partners) at the time. It is irrelevant whether I had the means and the support, financially or otherwise, to have a child. It is irrelevant if I knew about or was using other forms of contraceptive. And it is irrelevant whether or not I knew about or considered other options.

It was not the “hardest decision” of my life; in fact, it wasn’t hard at all; it was one of the easiest. I do not feel the need to justify having a safe and legal medical procedure, no more than I would need to justify a biopsy, drawing blood, getting a cast, or having an x-ray.   If you really want to know the details of my medical history, you can ask. I am open to talk about my personal medical experiences with people I choose to discuss such matters. Beyond that, really, it is none of your damn business. Now that is out of the way, phew, let’s move on.

Screen Shot 2015-09-22 at 5.30.51 PMI am a mother. I have the smartest, most beautiful, amazingly creative, intensely funny, interesting daughter, ever (no bias in this statement)! Being a mother to an adult daughter has not diminished my support of abortion providers, if anything it has strengthened it. I am a lesbian, married to the most amazing woman in the world (again, no bias in this statement).   For myself, and more importantly, for my daughter and my wife, I stand with Planned Parenthood, and all legal abortion providers, for the fundamental right to reproductive justice; for the freedom of choice in medical decisions; for the ever increasing need for affirming care; for the call to action of intersectionality of progressive causes; for the understanding that the assault on abortion rights is part of a growing and dangerous war on women and self-determination.

I have used Planned Parenthood, and other organizations, for among other things: contraceptives, HIV & STD testing, exams, etc. Most importantly, I have used Planned Parenthood and other reproductive health organizations as a resource. Planned Parenthood has always been a resource to share for accurate, up-to-date information and education on reproductive health, affordable health care, safer sex education and resources, and affirming care for Transgender health services. I cannot adequately express my gratitude and the life-changing, and yes, life-saving information and care Planned Parenthood has provided to me and to so many others I know.

Planned Parenthood has been a consistent ally in the fight for LGBTQ equality – I cannot think of a Pride event I have attended that Planned Parenthood, and other reproductive health services, were not active participants, providing services, resources and education to the LGBTQ community. If ever there was a time for intersectionality, for the LGBTQ community to stand up with a consistent ally, it is now, it is with Planned Parenthood and legal abortion providers.

Regardless of your personal choice regarding abortion, the defunding of Planned Parenthood and the exhaustive barrage of legislation to limit access to abortion services, really, has nothing to do with abortion, and I think everyone knows that. Federal funds are NOT used for abortion services, though I personally think that is a grievous tragedy. Abortion services make up a tiny percentage of the services offered by Planned Parenthood, though that is irrelevant, even if 99.9% of their operations were abortion services, they should still be supported. And has been proven so many times, the healthcare services Planned Parenthood and other organizations provide actually decreases the demand for abortion services.  And arguing these points, in many ways, defeats the purpose. Abortion is not a crime, it is not wrong, it is not bad, and those of us committed to reproductive rights and justice need to stop apologizing for abortions – there is nothing to apologize for!

Screen Shot 2015-09-22 at 5.30.02 PMThe assaults on abortion services are about self-determination. Once again, right wing, religious zealots have the audacity to say, to imply, and to pass legislation based on their belief that millions of women, including me, are not smart enough, are not strong enough, are not moral enough, are not capable of making our own decisions. They do this through blatant lies, through manipulation, through misinformation, through shaming. I refuse to be a part of this, and I challenge anyone and everyone to join me in refuting these critics and to stand up.

The assaults on abortion services are about sex shaming. We live in a society that over-sexualizes, under-sexualizes, de-sexualizes and mis-sexualizes women in so many ways, and then we add the religious bigotry of sex-shaming. Instead of arguing that federal funds aren’t used for abortions or that only a tiny percentage of Planned Parenthood’s operations are abortion related, we should be clarifying the conversion. Who cares? Bottom line, women are sexual, always have been, always will be. Oh, and so are men. Sex is not bad. I can’t believe I even have to say that. Accurate sex education, access to reproductive health services, and safe, affirming care – this is what these organizations provide, and why all of us need to stand with them.

The assaults on abortion services are about limiting access to health care, especially for disenfranchised women.   Defunding and legislation limiting access to women’s health care services disproportionately harms poor women, women who live in rural areas, women with accessibility and ability issues, women in abusive relationships, undocumented women, young women. On the same note, given the range of services these organizations provide, it also disproportionately hurts our most vulnerable LGBTQ communities: poor, rural, young, transgender, undocumented, etc. In many places, cosmetic surgery is more accessible than reproductive health services. The absurdity of that makes me laugh, and cry. Even if I do not need their services right now, even if you have never needed these services, standing with Planned Parenthood and legal abortion providers means you are standing with our communities, with all members of our communities. It is important, it is vital that reproductive health services and education be expanded NOT limited.

The more women, the more people share their experiences of utilizing abortion service providers, regardless for what kinds of services, the less the extremist right can use the lies and the manipulation and the misinformation to advance their agenda. There is power in our stories, and in our experiences, but only in the telling of them, only in the sharing of them, only in the debunking of those lies and manipulations and misinformation – only in the truth. So, yes, I stand with Planned Parenthood and all legal abortion providers, and I encourage others to as well, and to share their stories and their truths so that others can use and have access to this important and vital resource. I refuse to be bullied and shamed, and I hope my “coming out” encourages others to do so as well.

Article by: Jennifer Davis, 2015© – A happily married, housewife, LGBTQ activist living in Lakewood, WA, who loves baking and gardening; former marketing executive; involved with numerous LGBTQ orgs and causes for 20+ years!
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