By Melanie Nathan, May 14, 2013.
To My Cousin Larry,
For your Funeral Larry some hours from now – My heart is broken. I am writing this for you here Larry, on my BLOG, because I know what that will mean to you – ever grateful for your undying support of my work and your encouragement. It will live on…
When we were little we used to pretend we were Spanish dancers. You used to yell OLE’ and we would swirl and twirl and then collapse on the floor and scream with laughter. We were camp even then! For some reason we thought that was so funny. Those days – we were so small and the world seemed so big.
And then you became the party – a legend and your dance became everyone’s – you shared it with all – everyone danced because of you Larry. And the world became small.
Cousins and best friends, in our own universe where sometimes it felt as if there were no adults.
We cared for each other- we lived together, we confided in each other with our deepest secrets. And all those years ago you were one of the few who never judged. It was safe to talk to you. I know it was the same for you!
We used to drive around Johannesburg “jolling;” I had just got my license and my car and would pick you up and we would go on “Monty” hunts because you wanted to see where he was – to tell him that he needed to be a father to you. It was just us, teens, and the adults nowhere to be found – they wanted the silence and to pretend the pain was not there.
We saw him on a roof once and both jumped out of the car and yelled at him to get off that roof and “man up.” You had so much courage Larry.
Your life was not easy but you never spoke about it and you never showed the strain.
Instead, you were always there for others and ensured your loyalty and friendship to all and it was always unconditional.
Many may not realize what you had to overcome. All you ever did was laugh and show your carefree self.
Until you saw a dark day when you were shattered by grave injustice.
But you climbed and climbed and then got on with making the most of these last years of your life, sometimes so lonely, as best you could. And you wondered where everyone had gone.
But you see, Lar, they were not gone…. they are here and they are loving you – they have always been here.
We had an unbreakable special bond that will always be there- even with you gone from this phase. You would always tell me how much you loved me, and compliment me on how I looked, on my work, encouraging me to keep up my activism, telling me you were proud of me, giving me your opinions, checking up on the kids. I am not sure who will do that anymore – in the same way as you did.
I feel so honored to have been a full witness to your life and how you overcame the odds, always with an expression of love and that soulful giggle which none can forget.
We did so much and together we made a PARTY of life’s troubles. We made it better than it was. So many loved you and will always remember you that way.
You were there for me LAR and I am going to miss my loyal loving cousin. I truly felt your love and I don’t know how it is going to be not hearing from you every week.
Whenever Skype rings here in San Francisco, I am going to think it is you. It is hard to imagine that Sundays will come and go and there will be no more calls. I am going to miss you. I Love you LAR and wish I could have hugged you just one last time.
You have gone far too young…. I wish there could have been more….
Rest in peace beloved Larry, Your Cuz Mel.
Funeral Westpark Cemetery, Johannesburg, South Africa 12.30 PM 14/05/2013.
Prayers are on Sunday 18th at Sandringham Gardens Shul, 1st Floor main building at 5pm.
Please join us in honoring the life of Larry Nathan, who passed away unexpectedly earlier this year.
“HIS LIFE OUR DANCE | FOREVER IN THE HEARTS OF SO MANY”